I am busy reading the follow-up book to “The Monk who Sold His Ferrari” by Robin Sharma. Mr. Sharma is my new motivational guru for the year (so far). The second book is not nearly as compressed with motivational one liners as the first book, but don’t let this put you off from getting this book. The truths mentioned are just as valuable, and the way in which the lead character in the book learns these lessons feels more gradual and natural. As you read it and there is a slower pace and rhythm to it which I love. The first book hits you over the head WHAM one line after the other, where this one you can actually see the truths the character learns take root in his soul, and how he changes as a person as these truths start to grow.
So what are these truths? I will mention the first one here. Honestly this is not ground breaking news for me, I know this. But, it is still good to kinda refresh the memory:
1st Lesson: The power of Authenticity
“The most important gift we can give ourselves is the commitment to living our authentic life. To be true to ourselves however is not an easy task, we must break free of the seductions of society and live life on our own terms and our own values and aligned with our original dreams. We must tap our hidden selves, explore the deep-seated unseen hopes, desires, strengths and weaknesses that make us who we are. We have to understand where we have been and know where we are going. Every decision we make, every step we take must be informed by our commitments to living the life that is true and honest and authentic to ourselves and ourselves alone. And as we proceed we are certain to experience fortune well beyond our highest imagination”
Be who you are. There is nothing worse than living a life in which you are believing, doing things, saying things, working at, or hanging out with people and places that are contradicting who you are. This can be as simple as saying things to impress a group of people to get social acceptance, to being in a relationship where you suppress the things that you love to do at the expense of doing the things you partner wants to do. If you are doing this then I urge you to stop, take note and BE who you are, DO what you Love.
An example here is my love for computer games. I’ve loved playing PC games since I was in primary school. I get absorbed into the world of whatever game I am playing and the “real” world disappear. Before you know it 5 hours have passed and I’ve been playing this game non-stop. It is a passion of mine. Since I got married I held back on this passion of mine in various ways. I either stopped playing, or I will only play when I am alone. I felt that at the time it wasn’t something at that I could share with my wife, because it is not a passion of hers. I have suppressed a major passion of mine at the expense of rather doing things I can do with my wife, together. Here’s the lesson I learned and the decision I made: I love playing games, it is my passion, it is part of who I am. So, I started including my wife in all the games I played. I told and showed her all the games I play, the cities I build only to destroy them. The dungeons I venture in to slay the dragons or demons, the missions I go on to get to the next level. You know what, she loved it. She learned and saw an important part of who I am. I was from that moment on, more authentic to myself, like the monk says. Not only this, but the relationship we have also strengthened.
I hope you are following you passion, or hobby. Even if it is childish, feels stupid or is something you do alone. I hope you share that part of you with your friends, even if they will like it or not. If they are your friends, they will love you for it even the more. Doing this you will discover that being who you are, makes you a happier, more passionate person. Be authentic, be yourself.